Cheers! It's almost been 5 year since my preventive (sometimes called prophylactic) double mastectomy. That surgery was July 2, 2020. On July 21, I underwent a 17.5 hour operation called DIEP Flap Reconstruction. And then on December 9, 2020, I underwent my 3rd and final surgery of that experience; revision surgery and double salpingectomy. Shop's closed! When I'm between 40 and 45, I'll probably undergo hysterectomy but at least removal of my ovaries. Read more about my experiences here. What I didn't share at the time - because I didn't know it at the time - how wild this ride would be, not just for my physical being but also my mental, emotional, and spiritual being.
Body is tea, baby! So let's break it down. The world is your oyster. Your life is a book. Your body is a canvas. Your world is your masterpiece. However you want to say it, you are in control.
At 5 years, I am finally having some time to reflect on this journey. I didn't think then that I'd be reminding folx now that scars are sexy or that I'd experience PTSD but let's embrace it? Since making my decision to take preventive measures in reducing my risk of developing cancer related to my inherited BRCA1 gene mutation, I have embraced a much different lifestyle. My surgeries have helped me eliminate processed foods, pasta, and other toxic substances like dairy mostly from my diet - for the most part. I have plenty of treats and splurges 😋 April 2022, I built a home gym to start my own fitness journey. April 17, 2023 I quit drinking alcohol. And today, I am working on re-building my physique. I have been all at weights ranging from 115 to 180, and I'm pretty content where I am.
In terms of my physical recovery, I'm pleased to share that I'm re-gaining some feeling on my torso. The numbness didn't stop me from feeling my tattoo pain, which is interesting. My artwork is finally complete, thanks to Cacy at Red Kraken Tattoo Parlor. It's beautiful and sometimes I let people see it in person! 😝
My spiritual health is probably the best it's ever been. I have started a personal journey to define my own peace and it is going absolutely spectacularly. Some people call it the era of "me" - whatever you call it, I highly suggest it. Choose you, period. Without a solid self, you cannot be solid for others. Ask me how I know.
My mental health is ok as it relates to my previvor journey. It's important to take care of your mental health. Some things I do include the basics: exercising each day, painting my nails, and getting out in nature each day.
Emotional health is complicated, right? In my support groups, I notice how many partners are not supportive of a woman undergoing surgery. That's really tough to know. But my wish for everyone reading this is that they peacefully let those people go. No matter how close you are, no matter how much you "depend on them," and no matter how much you have intertwined, do not stay with someone who doesn't support you through this journey. Whether its a partner, a friend, or an employer. Let them go and choose you. Also, scars are sexy. I talk more about self-care here.
Some people ask about dating life after this experience. I did try it for a hot sec but hope my husband finds me without me having to "date" again. I am single for many reasons. I don't love being single but I choose to be single during this phase of my life. Knowing your worth leaves very few options on the table. Being able to connect with someone after this experience can be tough but I have never been more content with my surroundings than I am now.
What's work like? I have always loved improving health outcomes in my personal and professional life. Let this be a reminder to encourage loved ones to make minor lifestyle modifications to lower their risk, get screened, and "love you." Learn more here.
If I have to wear clothes, my favorite thing to wear is leggings and a t-shirt!
I am in the market for a new swimsuit so if any of my post-DIEP sisters have recommendations, please leave them in the comments below. 👙
I love you <3
